What is Counseling?

While there are many different kinds of counseling, they all have several factors in common. First, counseling is a professional relationship between at least two people. This means that a professional counselor offers therapy to another. Professional counselors have dedicated themselves to their education and their practice in order to be able to provide their clients with knowledge and counsel that is designed to help them.

Second, counseling is organized around the principle of helping others reach their goals. Everyone has goals. For some, that means being a better partner to their significant other, or a better parent to their children. To others, their goals are about achieving a new level of success at work. No matter what your aspirations are, a therapist has the keys to help you unlock your full potential while uncovering and removing the obstacles that have held you back in your life.

Sometimes goals are less concrete than professional success or happier relationships. If you have had a hard time coping with a life change, whether that be a marriage, a divorce, a death, or an illness, you may not know exactly what a reasonable goal is. It could be as simple as saying “I want to feel better.” Whatever your goal, a professional counselor can help you identify both the underlying problems that are holding you back, and they can help you plan out a map that can get you where you want to be.

If you are ready to take the first step towards the life you want to live, call Gray Matters. I will set up an appointment so we can discuss what your goals are and begin the journey that will get you there.

Do I Need Counseling?

There is no hard and fast rule about when someone should see a counselor for therapy, but if you feel lost, hopeless, helpless, confused, angry, or empty, counseling may help.

Lots of people deal with problems every day without professional help from a therapist or counselor, but just as many people struggle to make sense of their lives or to make forward progress on the changes they would like to see in themselves. It is important that you don’t compare yourself to others when you are considering therapy. What is important is that you are doing everything you can to help yourself. Just because someone puts on a smile does not mean that they are happy or that you can “power through” like they can. Our society places a premium on “manning up” and “being tough” instead of being honest and open. Ignoring or denying that a problem exists rarely ends well, though; repressing negative experiences or pretending that you don’t have feelings will only make you feel worse over time.

Many people have feelings or thoughts that they don’t wish to burden their friends and family members with because these thoughts are mentally taxing or challenging to consider. After a life-changing event, it is completely normal to reevaluate your life and the way that you look at the world. When a relationship ends or someone you love passes away, a piece of who we are goes with them and we are changed. Sometimes, it seems as if the way that our world looks and feels changes when we lose something or someone who is important to us.

You don’t have to deal with these changes alone. A counselor can help you talk about your new reality, they can help you better organize your thoughts in order to change the way that you feel about the world and yourself, and they can help you get back on the path you want to be on or forge a new one.

Call Gray Matters in Simi Valley today if you think that counseling could help you. My practice is about helping you meet your goals, whether that means developing a plan for professional success or working to control your depression or anxiety.