PSYCHOTHERAPIST IN SIMI VALLEY EXAMINES LIST OF EXCUSES

We all make excuses from time to time, without even realizing it. We often have a false sense of what is truly important to us by our priority list. Much of how we can evaluate this list is to look at how much time and money we are expending upon those priorities. We can also look at our priorities by the things we think about and invest our emotions towards. So our false sense of priorities and our list of excuses work together to get in the way to overcome and break through to reach our goals.

Having support to overcome excuses is very valuable in getting to a place emotionally to be ready to make changes. Making changes are very attainable when given the opportunity to challenge the list of excuses and fight for making a new list of reasons why you can accomplish your goals.

Do any of these sound familiar to you?

I don’t deserve it.

I don’t know how.

I don’t know where to get help.

I am alone.

I can’t do it.

I already tried and failed.

That is not for me.

I want to do that, but I don’t have time.

I am not smart enough.

I wasn’t raised that way.

It takes too long.

I am too angry.

I am too annoyed.

I am too fat.

I am too ugly.

I am too tall.

I am too short.

I am too old.

I am too young.

I am too scared.

I am too out of shape.

I am too busy.

I am too stressed.

I am too poor.

I am too rich.

I am not smart.

I have never done that before.

I have no support.

I have no experience.

I have decided that it will never change.

I am afraid.

All of these statements are excuses that we use when we are not ready to make a change. When we are ready to make changes we may feel tempted to say the above statements over and over again to avoid how we feel about the above list. Avoiding our feelings is a sure way to never face all that stands in our way to accomplish or be all that we are intended to be and are capable of being.

Many people feel depressed, anxious and hopeless and face the challenge to overcome excuses from the past and present. Just because something is difficult to accomplish does not mean that it is unattainable. It could mean that it is just going to take effort. Most things that are worth having potentially, will require effort. Often people are capable of much but are lacking the support to attain their goals.

Most successful people have a supportive group or individual to help them be successful. I think people imagine that most successful people become successful on their own. I have found that most successful people meet their goals by having a strong support system that provides them the opportunity to be validated and encouraged. A support system or person would also provide constructive feedback on how to improve and provide accountability towards goals.

Here is a good article that I came across that I want to share with you:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shyness-is-nice/201302/six-ways-be-kind-yourself-when-trying-new-things

If this list sounds familiar and you want to begin to make some changes, contact us for a free consultation. Or, request a session time for someone you know that would benefit in investing some time in making changes and challenging oneself in overcoming the list of excuses.